I ‘d like to respond to a letter I received from a 60 year old woman who was recently widowed. In it she discusses her feelings about being single, wealthy and alone. She and her husband were married for over 37 years. He was a successful business owner who left her with multi millions. Her situation is not unusual. Often people who own family businesses are at least somewhat parochial in their social interation outside of the family. Plus many of the people whom they know, including their neighbors, are not in their financial position.
Now, I (the slightly multi-millionaire next door) find myself widowed, ready to move ahead with my life, beautiful, brainy, healthy with grown, educated, married successful children on their own.
You may be saying “poor, pitiful woman.” But in reality she would surely give up all of her wealth to have her husband still with her.
. . . where does one find the widowed/divorced millionaire (if not next door-then within a reasonable distance)? It does not seem to be the way things work nowadays that friends introduce you to someone suitable. I know this to be a fact, as I have several friends in like situations.
My reply to this woman is to read Chapter 6, Choice of Spouse, in The Millionaire Mind where I highlight the case studies of Terry and Miss Ann. Both of these women were recovering slowly from devastating divorces. They had found their husbands in single bars, and as one stated, “I dread going back to the dating game.” In the end, both women had to change their affiliation groups and activites in order to find an appropriate mate. They each found their Mr. Right among adult single groups at houses of worship.
Whether one is wealthy or not, finding the right mate does take a conscious, proactive effort. Change isn’t always easy. Both both Terry and Miss Ann changed affiliation groups from singles bars to religious singles groups. The widow profiled here needs to “move on” as she states and stop depending on her “friends” to find Mr. Right.